It’s a marriage tip that Marilynn and I have practiced in our own marriage for more than 40 years. There must be space in your togetherness. God wants marriages to be composed of two great friends. Creating a closer friendship with our spouse than we would have with a brother (Prov. 18:24). Two very different people becoming one in flesh through a lifelong covenant was God’s original intent for marriage (Gen. 2:24). Yet as much as God desires oneness in marriage, the most successful marriages practice space within togetherness. Husband and wife will - and should - have different interests. Times apart. For example, husbands may enjoy sports that their wife does not. And wives may have interests that their husbands do not. Good! That creates healthy spaces! Here’s an illustration. Picture two columns holding up a roof. They must have some space between them for their full strength and safety to occur. If the columns are too close to one another, the roof - even the entire building - can collapse. Yes, become each other’s best friends. Spend time together for a healthy marriage. Become one. But let there be some space between you as well. Space in your togetherness. The healthiest and strongest marriages realize this truth.
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