Most often, we criticize in others what we hate in ourselves.
Did you know that research shows that roughly half the words we use are negative? About 30% are positive. The other 20%, neutral. Think about that!
Consider how God intended for our words to be used: “Therefore encourage one another and build one another up” (1 Thes. 5:11).
Our words should be used to edify. Not to tear each other down.
How do you use your words? To encourage or discourage?
Do a word inventory. Think especially about the words you use when criticizing others. Then be honest with yourself. Evaluate your heart. Is there self-loathing
Are these criticisms the very things about yourself you’re most ashamed of? Embarrassed by? Feel guilty about it?
If so, run to the throne of grace and receive God’s mercy (Hebrews 4:16). Experience his deep, healing love for you. His forgiveness and kindness. His goodness and grace.
Be healed! Become whole! And then you’ll stop criticizing others. Immediately! Use your words to edify others. Even your enemies. Jesus said so (Matthew 5:44).
And the next time you catch yourself using negative words, stop and remember: We criticize in others what we hate in ourselves.