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Are you looking for a way to change your spouse? To make him or her be more like you desire?


Then choose to serve your spouse and not be served (Mark 10:45). Do it even if you don’t feel like it.


Ask Jesus to change your heart. Desire to live and act more like Jesus. Desire to serve, not be served. Then you may see your spouse become the person you desire him/her to be.


Here’s a great example. A husband says to me, “When my wife changes her attitude, I’ll do something she loves: rub her feet.” My response? “Rub her feet, which she loves, and you’ll see her attitude toward you change.”


Guess what? He tried it. And it worked.


Just do what Jesus would do - especially with your spouse. Not based on your feelings but choosing to do Jesus’s will toward your beloved because it’s simply the right thing to do.


And see if your spouse starts becoming the person you’ve always wanted.

I have come to this deeply held conviction: Everything that happens on this earth must first be Father-filtered. If we are God the Father’s children, and he owns us and oversees all we do, then nothing can come to us unless our Father in heaven gives permission.


Look at Job (Job 1-2). Satan had to first ask for permission from God before he did anything with Job.


Also, examine Peter at the Last Supper (Luke 22). Jesus told him that Satan wanted to sift him like wheat, and Jesus had granted it.


For followers of Jesus - all of our life’s circumstances - must first be filtered by our Father. He must first give permission before bad stuff comes to us from the enemy.


That means that all circumstances, both good and bad, will be used by God to accomplish his great purpose for our lives (Romans 8:28). Job became a mighty man of faith who believed that no plan of God could be thwarted (Job 42:2). Jesus told Peter that Satan’s sifting of him would be used so he could build other people’s faith as they went through difficult times.


Our Daddy in heaven is in all things and using all things for our good and his glory.


Always remember: For God’s children, everything must first be Father-filtered.

Every successful marriage demands divorce.


“What?” you say. Have I lost my mind? Fallen prey to culture’s lies?


Of course not. Here’s what I mean: Every successful marriage needs a divorce from self-love. Or said another way, the “me first” mentality.


In over 40 years of pastoral ministry, I’ve done a study. I’ve examined why spouses get divorced. Here is the major reason: Selfishness. Either by one or often both people in the marriage.


God’s design for marriage is Genesis 2:24. It’s a loving covenant where husband and wife are submitted to God and to serve one another (Ephesians 5:19-33).


Eliminate selfishness in your marriage. Serve your spouse. And watch your marriage flourish.


That’s because every successful marriage demands divorce from self-love.