Our Favorite Proverbs: He Will Make Your Paths Straight, Proverbs 3:5-6

by Marilynn Chadwick

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.”

Proverbs 3:5-6 ESV

When I became a follower of Jesus many years ago, I was intrigued to notice how the words in the Bible suddenly made sense to me. What I had dismissed as a “dead book” in my early twenties suddenly came to life.

Two verses that became anchor verses for me over the years are found in Proverbs 3:5-6. They promised that if I would trust God, something very new for me at the time, and not lean on my understanding, he would direct my paths. Since I had leaned heavily on my own mind and problem-solving ability, this was a radical shift.

The Bible challenged me not only to trust God but also to depend upon his mind. The promise that followed was powerful: He would direct my path, my “way of life.” Moving from an unbeliever to a devoted follower of Jesus was a huge adjustment. So, I memorized these and other Bible verses as I continued to immerse myself in God’s Word.

Fast forward to more than a decade later when we finally had our children. As our three children grew, I was passionate about helping them understand God’s Word from the earliest days. I would find verses that were easy to memorize and make up simple songs to go with them. I happened to ask my now grown son the other day if he could remember Proverbs 3:5-6. I had to laugh when he immediately sang the verses, complete with hand motions to go with them:

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight!” He knew the verses by heart. And I’d like to think he has applied them over the years when he faced decisions or needed wisdom. I know I have.

But here’s the thing. Since I have hidden these words in my heart (Psalm 119:11), they are ready and available whenever I need them. Just the other day, I was talking with a young technician trying to solve our internet issue. When he finished, we struck up a conversation. Turns out he was trying to decide about whether to make a career change that would involve a big move. I casually quoted these verses from Proverbs and explained how I’ve turned to them when needing guidance. He was visibly moved and asked if I would pray for him. I prayed a simple prayer and encouraged him to read Proverbs 3:5-6 on his own. God’s Word is living and active, so you never know. Two short verses from Proverbs may just open the door for this young man to “trust God and lean not on his own understanding.”

Our Favorite Proverbs: Words of Life, Proverbs 14:1

by Marilynn Chadwick

“The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.”

Proverbs 14:1 NIV

Did you know that women talk more than men? It’s a proven fact. The average woman speaks about 20,000 words each day to the average man’s 7,000, or nearly three times as many! So if women want to use our words to build our house, we certainly have no shortage of building materials.

As wives, we sometimes forget the weight our words carry. I’ve discovered that one of the most powerful ways to build up my husband, David, is with my words, both the words I speak to him and the words I speak about him. Careless words can easily tarnish our husband’s reputation in the eyes of others.

Proverbs 14:1 reminds us that “the wise woman builds her house,” but a foolish one “tears hers down.” In the Bible, the term “house” is often synonymous with “family.” So when we build up our husbands, we strengthen our family, our “house.”

This principle applies to both men and women. The Bible talks about two kinds of words—words of life and words of death. It repeatedly cautions us about the dangers of the tongue and reminds us that our words have great power for good or evil.

We should pause here to consider that God holds us accountable for the words we speak. Think about it. Families and friendships are broken apart by words. Wars are started with words. Our tongue “sets the whole course of one’s life on fire and is itself set on fire by hell,” according to James 3:6. We are warned that “death and life are in the power of the tongue” (Proverbs 18:21 KJV).

So it naturally follows that our words would be some of our most powerful tools for building up or tearing down our marriages. One of my wise young friends with a very strong marriage sums it up this way: “I try to compliment my husband in front of others when he is present, but also when he is absent. In situations where it is tempting to criticize publicly, I try to say nothing and follow up on the conversation when we are at home in private. Then, I choose my words wisely—and above all, prayerfully.

Think about it. Our words can give life and encouragement. Or they can bring death and discouragement. Which will you choose?

Our Favorite Proverbs: Proverbs 15:22

by David Chadwick

“Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed.”

Proverbs 15:22

My wife Marilynn and I are taking a look at some of our favorite verses from the book of Proverbs. In a world where everyone has an opinion, but few have wisdom, we find this book of the Bible to be of utmost importance.

What do you do when you have to make a hard decision? When you are faced with a dilemma and must act in wisdom? The first thing you should always do is turn to the Lord and to his Word. Pray for the power of his Holy Spirit to lead and guide you to truth that will encourage, strengthen, and fortify you.

Secondly, you should seek the invaluable support of trusted friends and advisors who love God and seek his will for their own lives. Solomon specifically said to seek a multitude of these kinds of advisers to succeed. Do you know why he suggests this? Because sometimes it takes many different people’s perspectives to give a full picture of understanding.

God often uses other wise individuals to help you navigate difficult decisions because trusted people can help you discern the right thing to do. Having many advisers helps you to see through your blind spots in order to make the right choice.

May I add one other insight here? Proverbs 16:31 says that gray hair is a crown of glory that comes from a righteous life. Do you know what this means? It means that people who have gray hair have learned certain things that only life could teach them. They have come face-to-face with situations, trials, and dilemmas that give them unique perspectives. They often have some of the best wisdom simply because they've lived life the longest. Glean from these people. Lean into their perspectives. They have invaluable resources.

In summary, when making a difficult life decision, here are some things to remember. Read God's Word. Pray for the Holy Spirit to bring you both wisdom and knowledge. Seek counsel from a wise friend. Give trusted advisers the ability to speak into your situation, especially those with gray hair. Then with humility, make your decision.

And trust God with the outcome.