Our Favorite Parenting Tips: Grow Your Child with the Grain

by Marilynn Chadwick

Train up a child in the way he should go [and in keeping with his individual gift or bent], and when he is old he will not depart from it (Proverbs 22:6 AMPC).

Education should be a delight, not drudgery. It’s the same with spiritual training. Every child learns differently. Research has shown that some of what were previously thought to be learning disabilities are often just different ways of processing information. The God of the Universe seems never to tire of creating unique humans. At birth, every person is “wired” differently from the over eight billion people on the planet—and from every other person who has ever lived! Astounding, isn’t it?

So as parents, it makes sense that in addition to discovering our child’s unique beauty, we should experiment to see how they best learn. What makes them tick? The kindest way to raise our children is “in keeping with their gift or bent.” Our best clues come simply from watching what they naturally love to do.

Our three now grown children were all very different. Bethany was multitalented and loved to learn. She played volleyball and basketball, but she was also passionate about languages. In third grade, she chose to attend a French Immersion Magnet School where English wasn’t even spoken. She learned everything from grammar to long division in French. It’s easy to see why she now loves educating her children at home.

David, our older son, was shooting wads of trash through lampshades at age two. It’s no surprise basketball grabbed his heart at an early age. Basketball scholarships completely paid for both his undergraduate and master’s degrees in college. We’ve watched basketball, along with his good math mind and strategic business acumen, open up doors to his career path in the sports world.

Our youngest, Michael, was talented in a variety of sports, but gravitated to swimming. He carved his own unique trail as a standout collegiate swimmer and eventually, a professional swimmer and world record holder. Our determined Michael used to say, “Swimming found me!” His athletic gifts and work ethic, combined with his high “EQ,” or emotional intelligence, have made him an effective leader who now expresses his gifts through a ministry calling.

David and I tried to “grow” our three children “with their grain.” By God’s grace, as they’ve gotten older, they’ve not left the foundation of that training. More importantly, they’ve held tightly to their faith in Jesus.

I pray each person reading this will discover your natural bent and help others do the same.

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This Moment of Hope is adapted from Woman of Valor by Marilynn Chadwick (Eugene: Harvest House, 2017). Click here to download a free PDF copy of Woman of Valor. If you enjoyed today's Moment of Hope feel free to forward this email or share this link with a friend so they can sign up to receive a Moment of Hope every day.

Our Favorite Parenting Tips: Learn to See Your Child's Beauty

by Marilynn Chadwick

By faith Moses, when he was born, was hidden for three months by his parents, because they saw that the child was beautiful, and they were not afraid of the king's edict (Hebrews 11:23).

Seeing our child’s beauty takes spiritual insight. The Bible tells us Moses’ parents saw he was a “beautiful child.” The word translated as “beautiful” in Hebrews 11:23 is used only one time in the entire New Testament. It means: “urbane, refined, and a city dweller.” His mother and father risked their lives to hide Moses from the king’s genocidal plot for three months. In that short time, they observed his unique design. 

Perhaps they sensed that he would be well-suited to be educated in the sophistication of Pharaoh’s courts. It wasn’t by accident that Moses’s mother—a courageous woman of faith—placed him in a basket on the riverbank where she knew Pharaoh’s daughter would find him. Moses would go on to lead God’s people out of captivity in Egypt.  

God’s dreams for your children often unfold as you learn to see their beauty. This reminds us of the importance of studying our children. And of the need to pray for insight into their talents, gifts, and character. God gives parents that special gift to serve as advocates for their children.  

I chose to be home with our children when they were young. Not because I was afraid they couldn’t make it without me, but because my goal was to raise world changers. Discovering the beauty in our children was, for me, the most intriguing aspect of parenting. But it took time and energy… and lots of watching. I wanted to be the one to help launch their dreams. 

A well-known Christian psychologist once emphasized the importance of helping our children develop a gift or a talent. We should also help our children look attractive, he said. Sound superficial? Think again. Reasonably stylish haircuts and clothing are not a waste, he argued. Having a talent along with an attractive appearance strengthens our children’s self-esteem. They may be rejected for their Christian faith, he acknowledged, but not because they’re simply out of step with the world. 

I enjoyed looking for the potential in each of our children. God has given mothers and fathers special insight into their children’s character and calling so that we can help them find their way in the world. 

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This Moment of Hope is adapted from Woman of Valor by Marilynn Chadwick (Eugene: Harvest House, 2017). Click here to download a free PDF copy of Woman of Valor. If you enjoyed today's Moment of Hope feel free to forward this email or share this link with a friend so they can sign up to receive a Moment of Hope every day.

Our Favorite Parenting Tips: Prayer, My “Go-to” Method of Parenting

by Marilynn Chadwick

Our children used to have a running joke. When watching a lousy performer on American Idol—the ones eliminated at the first cut—they would say, “Where was his mother?” Their point being that any good mom should never let a child go out into the world without a grasp of who they are and who they’re not. What they’re good at—and what they’re not. It’s our job as mothers to teach, nurture, and correct our kids. To tell them the truth about themselves and the world around them.

I’ve said raising our children was my master passion, and it’s true. Nothing has ever given me as much joy, as many tears, or greater triumphs than the development of these three young people. Nothing I’ve accomplished compares with the exhilaration of pouring life into my kids and watching them flourish.

But being a mother has also been challenging. Even gut-wrenching at times. I once commented to an older, wiser friend who had raised five great kids that I wished I was a little more relaxed as a mom. She shot back, “Are you kidding? Motherhood is not a relaxing job!” And she’s right. But with creativity, patience, a supportive community, and persistent prayer, it can work.

I often say prayer is vital to a good marriage. And praying for my children has been my “go to” method of mothering. Pure and simple. This is more than just lip service, coming from a mom who knows she has plenty of flaws. I have often poured over God’s Word to see what he had to say. So, when the Bible promised, “Your children will be mighty in the land” (Psalm 112:2), I figured I was on solid ground in praying they would have an impact on the world. Surrender them to Christ, I learned early on. Fight for them. Develop their gifts and talents.

Over the next several days, we’ll explore several ways to help our children reach their dreams. But at the heart of it all is prayer.

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This Daily Moment of Hope is adapted from Woman of Valor by Marilynn Chadwick (Eugene: Harvest House, 2017). Click here to download a free PDF copy of Woman of Valor. If you enjoyed today's Moment of Hope feel free to forward this email or share this link with a friend so they can sign up to receive a Moment of Hope every day.