Kindness Under Fire: Rest for Your Soul

by Marilynn Chadwick

The Proverbs 31:10 “woman of valor” is kind, and she teaches others to be kind. But we must also consider the kindness of God. Because until we get that one right, we’ll never walk in true freedom. Throughout history, we have seen how women (and all people, for that matter) have done terrible things to themselves and to each other when their view of God is off.

We have a good role model in the woman of valor in Proverbs 31. Her wholehearted devotion to God was not from terror, but rather from a reverential awe that filled her with confidence. Such strong faith was the reason she could face her future with hope—and why she could “laugh at the days to come” (Proverbs 31:25 NIV).

She knew God intimately. She had experienced him as loving, merciful, and kind. So she was able to lead and teach others with this same kindness: “She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue” (Proverbs 31:26 ESV).

The Hebrew word chesed, translated “kindness” in this verse, is used throughout the Old Testament to describe God. Chesed, often translated “loving-kindness,” includes other aspects of God’s character, such as his love and mercy. There’s hardly an English equivalent that captures all that is wrapped up in chesed.

Scholars agree that chesed is one of the most important words in the entire Old Testament. For not only is it central to God’s character, it’s also tied to his covenant with his people. As one scholar put it, “the covenant may be thought of as the relationship through which chesed flows.”

A covenant is sort of like a contract, only more relational and more binding. God’s covenant was his way of guaranteeing his undying love and his unbreakable promises. In short, the covenant was proof of God’s loving-kindness. “‘With everlasting kindness [chesed], I will have compassion on you,’ says the Lord your Redeemer” (Isaiah 54:8 NIV). The Lord is good and “his love [chesed] endures forever” (Psalm 107:1 NIV).

Christians believe that when Jesus came to earth, his death and resurrection marked the beginning of a new kind of covenant. Through the shedding of his blood, God provided forgiveness of our sins and a free gift of grace for all who would accept it. If this method of salvation sounds too easy, think of all it cost God.

What good news it is that Jesus now gives this invitation of salvation by grace to exhausted women—and all weary souls everywhere: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls” (Matthew 11:28-29 NIV).

Loving-kindness seems to be a lost virtue in today’s world. Sadly, it’s missing from many of the discussions about what it means to be a woman today. Chesed actually adds to a woman’s strength, instead of making her weak, as some would have us believe. We must not forget that chesed is how God treats us as women. Even when the culture is cruel, or the devil is on his rampage, or when women treat themselves and each other poorly, God covers us with his chesed.

Our Kindness Under Fire series is adapted from Woman of Valor by Marilynn Chadwick.  Click here for more inspiration or to order a copy of Woman of Valor.