Our Favorite Proverbs: Proverbs 18:8

by David Chadwick

“The words of a whisperer are like delicious morsels; they go down into the inner parts of the body.”

Proverbs 18:8

A whisperer is defined as “anyone who speaks softly or in hushed tones.” Sometimes a whisper brings peace, clarity, and a softness; much like the still soft voice of the Lord that guides us, leads us, and protects us (Isaiah 30:21).

But when used incorrectly, whispering can be full of gossip and rumormongering. Proverbs 18:8 speaks specifically about this type of whisperer. It teaches that words of gossip go down deep into our inner body. It even implies that listening to these words can have a negative impact on our physical health.

This sinister whisperer spreads things that seem enticing but transfer deep toxins into the soul of the listener. This person whispers to hide, to cover up, and to deceive. It’s a whisper that hurts rather than heals.

Think about gossip for a moment. Words that are full of toxins. Unfortunately, many people love to speak these words. And even more love to hear them.

For some, listening to gossip is both entertaining and exciting. It is somewhat of an addiction that gives individuals something more exciting to focus on outside of their everyday lives. It serves as a toxic distraction. How terrible!

But why do people love such a horrible thing? Because the flesh has a powerful appetite!

Gossip tears someone else down while trying to lift yourself up. Not only does gossip puff you up with a false sense of pride but it destroys the person you are talking about, who is also created in the image of God.

Gossip truly is a double-edge sword and is deadly for both the speaker and hearer, which is one of many reasons why it is so important to stop these words before they ever enter.

Don’t listen to gossip. It’s bad for everyone involved. It hurts the person about whom you are gossiping. And, according to wise Solomon, it appears to be bad for your own physical health as well, deeply touching the inner parts of your physical body.

A strong warning from a God who made us!

Our Favorite Proverbs: Proverbs 18:1

by David Chadwick

“Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment.”

Proverbs 18:1

A man or woman who chooses isolation is selfish and does not operate in wisdom. The Bible essentially says isolation leads to foolishness. It is sometimes called today “isolation sickness.”

Think about the Covid season. We were all shoved inside. Churches and schools forced to close. Everyone was isolated. Socially distanced. Separated from community. Filled with fear at every turn.

Now think about what happened as a result of that season. People got depressed. Kids’ grades dropped. Loneliness crept in. People were tempted to watch what they shouldn’t watch. Tempted to do what they shouldn’t do. Those who were lulled by isolation became seekers of their own desires. After all, as one famous quote says, “Boredom breeds sin.”

This word “isolate” is synonymous with negative words like “detached” and “separated.” It almost implies a reclusive or divisive demeanor. When we live in isolation, we are vulnerable to resisting sound judgment, as today’s proverb says. Whereas God designed for us to live in community, isolation divides us from the body of Christ. And we were never created to live in isolation.

On the contrary, we were created by God to live in community with one another. God said, “It is not good for man to be alone” (Genesis 2:18). Believers in Jesus are not to forsake the assembling together with other believers (Hebrews 10:25). In order to have the sound judgment Proverbs speaks of, we must get input from others, we must seek correction, we must pursue encouragement, and we must hunger for sound advice!

God deeply desires for us to live near one another, to learn from one another, and to sharpen one another. In fact, the Bible is full of “one another” statements that explain all of the ways that the Christian faith is intended to be lived out alongside other believers.

As the body of Christ, we were created to live together in community!

May we all seek out “togetherness.” May we seek the unity that only comes through Jesus. May we flee from isolation and, instead, pursue the desire of our Father to share our lives with other believers.

Our Favorite Proverbs: Proverbs 17:17, God’s Wisdom Creates Space for Relationships

by Marilynn Chadwick

“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.”

Proverbs 17:17 NIV

We’ve talked about how God’s wisdom, including his creation of the Sabbath, improves our work/rest rhythm. It also strengthens our relationships. Over the years, our “Day Off” became a source of relational bonding for our family. All three of our now grown children especially looked forward to “Family Home Night.” These were weekly times of shared togetherness at the close of our Sabbath and included special movies, family prayers, Bible stories, and make-your-own-pizzas.

Sometimes, those family movies prompted spontaneous talking, laughing, and stories. But they also created space for the occasional troubling fear. The kids seemed to take this time to heart. They grew to eagerly anticipate the much-needed space set aside for rest and time with just our family. They felt renewed by the safe haven of home. Relationships tend to grow deeper when we take a day to rest.

Perhaps that’s why Sabbath and stories seem to naturally go together. This was especially evident during our missions travel to other cultures, where life often moved at a slower pace. The connection was even more profound in places where war or suffering had occurred. I remember my friend Ange, a young Rwandan mother and survivor of the horrific genocide years earlier. After we experienced a Sabbath worship service together, Ange opened up and shared her story of pain and ultimately healing. I was amazed by her courage and strength. We kept in touch for years, but it was a time of rest that opened the door for the sharing of stories and friendship. The Bible refers to the Sabbath day as “holy,” which means “different or set apart.” “Day Off” is unlike any other day of the week (Exodus 20:8-11).

God must have realized when he created the Sabbath that it would enrich every area of our human life. Sabbath keeping goes against the grain of a world that is too busy to care. It is life in slower motion. For this reason, Sabbath encourages the sharing of our stories, dreams, fears, and even testimonies. That’s why we were not created to experience Sabbath in isolation.

I wonder if biblical Sabbath keeping could become a powerful, counter cultural strategy in a world which thirsts for freedom from overwork and isolation. In a world in desperate need of God and godly relationships. In a world that yearns for shalom.