Our Favorite Proverbs: Proverbs 17:17, God’s Wisdom Creates Space for Relationships

by Marilynn Chadwick

“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.”

Proverbs 17:17 NIV

We’ve talked about how God’s wisdom, including his creation of the Sabbath, improves our work/rest rhythm. It also strengthens our relationships. Over the years, our “Day Off” became a source of relational bonding for our family. All three of our now grown children especially looked forward to “Family Home Night.” These were weekly times of shared togetherness at the close of our Sabbath and included special movies, family prayers, Bible stories, and make-your-own-pizzas.

Sometimes, those family movies prompted spontaneous talking, laughing, and stories. But they also created space for the occasional troubling fear. The kids seemed to take this time to heart. They grew to eagerly anticipate the much-needed space set aside for rest and time with just our family. They felt renewed by the safe haven of home. Relationships tend to grow deeper when we take a day to rest.

Perhaps that’s why Sabbath and stories seem to naturally go together. This was especially evident during our missions travel to other cultures, where life often moved at a slower pace. The connection was even more profound in places where war or suffering had occurred. I remember my friend Ange, a young Rwandan mother and survivor of the horrific genocide years earlier. After we experienced a Sabbath worship service together, Ange opened up and shared her story of pain and ultimately healing. I was amazed by her courage and strength. We kept in touch for years, but it was a time of rest that opened the door for the sharing of stories and friendship. The Bible refers to the Sabbath day as “holy,” which means “different or set apart.” “Day Off” is unlike any other day of the week (Exodus 20:8-11).

God must have realized when he created the Sabbath that it would enrich every area of our human life. Sabbath keeping goes against the grain of a world that is too busy to care. It is life in slower motion. For this reason, Sabbath encourages the sharing of our stories, dreams, fears, and even testimonies. That’s why we were not created to experience Sabbath in isolation.

I wonder if biblical Sabbath keeping could become a powerful, counter cultural strategy in a world which thirsts for freedom from overwork and isolation. In a world in desperate need of God and godly relationships. In a world that yearns for shalom.