Lessons from My 98-year-old Dad: Keep Calm and Carry On

by Marilynn Chadwick

“Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him’.”

Genesis 2:18

During our growing up years, Mom was more than just Dad’s companion. She was what the Bible refers to in Genesis 2:18 as his “helper.” The original word in Hebrew is ezer, which means a strong, often heroic, source of support. Mom was both strong and kind and she was Daddy’s rock.

Mom stopped teaching school when the kids came—family was everything to her. She especially loved Dad’s parents and his three sisters and their families. Dad’s job required quite a bit of travel, but Mom never complained. She kept life going for her three daughters. But invariably, most of our life crises seemed to hit when Daddy was away. Like the time I tried to do a cannonball dive into three feet of water and didn’t tuck quite fast enough, hitting my head on the bottom of the swimming pool. After Mom and I took a fast trip to the emergency room and 27 stitches later, Daddy finally made it home.

Recently, when I asked Daddy to describe my mom’s strength, he pointed back to that incident. “I never worried when I was traveling,” he said. “Even when you cracked your head open, I could always count on your mom to handle things. She was always so calm.”

Daddy’s right. Mom honored him through her strong resolve and her ability to keep the family on track. The popular World War II expression “Keep Calm and Carry On” was originally created to inspire the Brits to keep up their courage during the war. And I think it also describes my mom quite well.

Mom and Dad suffered two especially hard losses as a young couple. When I was two, Mom delivered a near term baby girl who died shortly after she was born. Today’s neonatal technology could easily have saved the baby. I have no memories of this incident.

Tragically, the very same thing happened again when I was five. This one I vividly remember. There were two of us girls now. My sister Susan and me. Mom went into premature labor again and delivered a baby—another nearly full-term baby girl, who died soon after birth. Mom, just 28 at the time, somehow managed to keep life moving forward. She had a quiet, but deep faith. I’m sure it was her faith that gave her the strength to persevere. She and Daddy kept hope alive, and two years later welcomed my youngest sister, Janice, whose name means “God’s gracious gift,” into our family.

When I look back at those times in my mother’s life, I don’t know how she kept going. I’m amazed at how Mom and Dad refused to allow those terrible losses to overwhelm our lives as children. They didn’t retreat to fear or hold us back from an active and happy childhood. They bravely kept moving forward—for us. Evidence, again, of their courageous and enduring faith.

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